Archive for November, 2018

Give Me Closure

 

Goodbyes are Hard

Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.

-Songwriters: Dan Wilson

Closing Time lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc

As we come to the end of our blog posts, and our ethics class, it occurs to me that we’re actually beginning the rest of our professional and personal lives. I’m struck by how difficult endings and goodbyes can be, and how we’ve learned how small actions, or lack of action,  can have lasting effects on others beyond the end of someone’s job status.  Throughout class we heard many stories of people who were effected by ethical and environmental decisions, many of whom were seeking closure or retribution and never got it. To me some of the most shocking stories I heard were from whistle blowers whose co-workers never even said good-bye to them, said they weren’t talking, or officially made an attempt to break ties. Talk about lack of closure! It would be one thing if you were told you were getting the silent treatment or yelled at, but to just be shunned with no official recognition, talk about experiencing gaslight. But I’m especially struck by how the ending of something, however lacking in closure it can be, can have such lasting effects on the beginning of new things. From the ending of George Washington’s Presidency the world saw how power could be peacefully transferred between leaders.

 

The end and lack of closure from WWI caused WWII. Most of the “applied ethics” we’ve studied in class are either stories of heroism (or lack thereof), or acknowledgements of on-going ethical dilemmas that lack closure.  This class has made me think about how we don’t control what our legacy is, but we have to form habits so that hopefully our legacies are what we want them to be.

Let me tell you what I wish I’d known
When I was young and dreamed of glory
Don’t nobody have control
Who lives, who dies, who tells your story

– History Has it’s Eyes on You

Hamilton

 

When I was younger I used to make a point of saying hello to every person I knew whenever I saw them, because I was terrified that I would not get the chance to say goodbye. This stemmed from experiencing loss as a young person, and I didn’t fully break the habit until college when often people walk across campus on the phone or with head phones. I’ve always struggled to say goodbye. There are so many different ways I’ll let the von Trapps sing them for you.

 

Since I’m not sure what to say here’s, the best goodbye in movie history.

Maybe this is the start of a beautiful friendship for all of us and our ethical sense of selves.

Or maybe this is a wake up call that we have to live in the moment, as if each moment could be the one that is chosen by history as our legacy. There are many ethical quandaries I’m sure we’ll face in our futures, but I hope that our time in this class has made everyone feel prepared, or at least that we can reach out to each other when the need arises.

It’s been a pleasure learning from all of you.

I’ve heard it said
That people come into our lives
For a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well I don’t know if I believe that’s true
But I know I’m who I am today
Because I knew you

 

Here’s to our new beginnings!

-You know you love me. xoxo Ethics Girl

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